It’s not acting like August this week in Chicago, which makes my plan of focusing on summer clothes feel kind of silly.
Nevertheless, here is my current favorite dress: Lindy Bop’s Lily dress. I have been wearing this dress everywhere, and yet, it proves to be difficult to photograph. We’ve been shooting it all summer, and either the dress or my face (admittedly, it’s usually my face) looks odd in pictures.
I love it so much because it’s:
So comfortable–it’s got a little bit of (not vintage) stretch.
Easily dressed up or down
Wearable with or without a crinoline
Blue. I love blue dresses. I would buy every blue dress, left to my own devices.
Floral–I am finally recovering from years of avoiding florals. I wore a LOT of florals as a teenager-young adult, and I was convinced they made me look like a fundamentalist. Suddenly, I’m into them again.
Hear me out. I needed something light weight, presentable enough to wear to the garden and the mailbox, but casual enough to clean my bathtub in. You may not be surprised to learn that I am not a sweatpants person. Jeans are too heavy in the summer. My other dresses are too nice for messy jobs, even with an apron. And so, I hit upon the idea of a house dress. Specifically, this house dress:
Purchased from the fantastic Raven at Raven’s Nest Patterns, this sixties pattern seemed just right for my plans.
I decided on using some cotton print from my stash, inherited from my grandma’s stash. It was pretty, and light, and I did not have quite enough of it. I pulled some more stash fabric for the collar and sash, providing a nice contrast.
We progressive types like to think we’d have been heroes in the past.
When I read about history, I automatically assume I would have been awesome in other generations. I’d have been an abolitionist during American slavery, probably with my own underground railroad station in my basement. I’d have fought in the Resistance, and refused to cooperate with the Nazis. I’d have been working at Hull House, or reporting undercover like Nelly Bly, fighting turn-of-the-century urban poverty. Protesting Japanese internment. Refusing to take land from Native Americans. You know, awesome.
With the smug 20/20 vision of hindsight, I wonder how all those bystanders, all those people who were neither fighting injustice or enacting it, could live with themselves. How can you know about terrible things, and then do nothing to fix it?
But I think I owe an apology to the lackluster people of the past, because white supremacists keep killing people, and I haven’t done much.
In so many ways, I have surrendered to the racism in society without ever really fighting it. I shamefully want to know how much I have to stay informed before I can stop learning more horrifying things, because it hurts my heart so much and I feel like I can’t do anything.
I don’t know what it was about this particular set of murders, but since the shootings in Charleston, I see my self-preservation as the cowardice it really is: a broken heart is the price you pay for being aware in this world. I’m not looking away.
There’s a lot of discussion of what being a white ally in a world of racial violence means. Here are some things I’m trying:
I am absolutely going to stop referring to segregation, prejudice, and racial violence as if they were something in the past, or like we somehow solved them as a society.
I’m not going to pretend that this is a Southern problem.
I will not shut up about “benign” racism in jokes, or pop culture, or things people say to me because they think I’ll agree with them.
I will not cry “white lady tears” when someone points out my own racism.
I will listen to people of color more than I talk.